LGBT Student Disagrees With LGBT Community
May 15, 2018
The LGBT community never ceases to amaze me. I do not necessarily mean this in a positive way, either. As a trans man who is currently in the process of transitioning from female to male, I just cannot consider myself to be a part of this community. Sure, I agree with what it stands for—I most definitely support equal rights for gay people, trans people, etc. and I do believe that some of these people are genuinely oppressed. Yes, these people (including myself), do often have problems in their day-to-day lives with outsiders. However, they also have beliefs and ideologies that I do not agree with.
The community often feels more like a club. People in the community sometimes harass others for having different ideologies than them. They often will want nothing to do with you if you happen to be anything other than a liberalist and they demonize “cis” and straight people simply for being the way they are. Some of the more radical people in the group will call heterosexuals “breeders” and refer to “cis” people as “cis scum”, and yet they expect to gain the respect of others. I can tell you now, this is not how you gain respect in the slightest.
Depending on radicality, having opinions that differ from the LGBT ideology could cause you to gain harassment and lose friendships. Gender is an especially sensitive topic. Take my beliefs, for example. I believe that there are only two genders, and that to be agender or nonbinary literally is the lack of gender, therefore it does not count as gender. Had I posted an article about this online somewhere or walked into a pride march stating this, there would be a high probability that I would be attacked verbally and possibly even physically. Would it happen? Perhaps not, but the chance of it happening is still existent—which it should not be.
The LGBT community has a running joke with outsiders about how the acronym is constantly growing, but it’s true. The proper term for the LGBT community now is the LGBTQIAPK community. I understand creating a community to support people who are gay, bisexual and transgender—heck, I even get behind the idea of support for intersex people, but do we really need it for people who are in questioning, asexuals (or allies—I am not quite sure which it is yet), in polyamorous relationships and for those who have kinks? I think not. It is perfectly okay to be proud of these things, but some of these—especially the Q and the K in the acronym—are things that apply to everyone or at least have applied to them in the past.
Being more masculine or feminine than the average person of the sex you were born into does not automatically make you transgender. Tomboys and tomgirls do exist. I find that people in the LGBT community will confuse this for transgenderism, end up transitioning and then realize that it is not what they wanted. Often, I find that some even encourage underage children to transition purely for being more feminine or masculine. This should not happen. Children should not be transitioning. They barely know what toys they want to play with, let alone their sexual identity. If they, later on, discover that they are in fact trans, then let them transition on their own accord. Most children who transition at a young age often regret it later on and want to detransition. In the end, if you truly are transgender, you will know when your body causes you to have gender dysphoria. If you are going to transition, be absolutely sure that it is what you want, and finally, do it on your accord— no one else’s. The LGBT community will often not let this be the case and try to convince people questioning themselves to transition.
There are other issues I could address, such as how pride marches get sexual in public really fast, but I feel like what I have addressed was the most important out of this. Now, I know that not all people in the LGBT community are like this. I know there are some who are good people and like to share knowledge of their lives with others in a respectful way so that others looking in can get a grasp and begin to understand their struggles. I am aware that what I have addressed could very well be a vocal minority. However, outsiders looking in on this community at a brief glance will only be able to see the negatives of the community rather than the positives, and rather than helping, it is only alienating the community and its people even more.